Malay wedding traditions ( Malay : Adat Perkahwinan Melayu ; Jawi script : عادة ڤركهوينن ملايو), such as those that occur in Brunei , Singapore , Malaysia , and parts of Indonesia and Thailand , normally include the lamaran or marriage proposal , the betrothal , the determination of the bridal dowry known as the hantaran agreed upon by both the parents’ of the groom and the bride (usually done one year before the solemnization of marriage), delivery of gifts and the dowry ( istiadat hantar belanja ), the marriage solemnization ( upacara akad nikah ) at the bride’s home or in a mosque , the henna application ritual known as the berinai , the costume changing of the couple known as the tukar pakaian for photography sessions, followed by wedding reception , a feast-meal for guests ( pesta pernikahan or resepsi pernikahan ) usually took place in the weekend (Saturday or Sunday), and the bersanding or the sitting-in-state ceremony when the couple sit in elaborate pelaminan (wedding throne) at their own home, or in wedding hall during the wedding reception. 
The T’boli believe in a pantheon of deities, supreme among which are Kadaw La Sambad , the sun god, and Bulon La Mogoaw , the moon goddess, who reside in the seventh heaven. They have seven sons and seven daughters who end up marrying each other and who become the lesser deities. They consider a bird called muhen the god of fate, whose song is believed to cause misfortune. Aside from these deities, the T’boli believe that everything has a spirit which must be propitiated for favorable fortune. Busao , or malevolent spirits, can wreak havoc on humans, causing misfortune or illness.